Comments on: What Is Your Problem? http://addmoms.com/2009/02/17/what-is-your-problem/ *celebrating life with ADHD* Sun, 29 Apr 2012 16:52:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Debbie http://addmoms.com/2009/02/17/what-is-your-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-8343 Debbie Fri, 18 Sep 2009 04:16:18 +0000 http://addmoms.com/?p=751#comment-8343 Thanks Brenda! Yes, it is definitely frustration. When he was very young 2yrs old on...we used to call him Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde....one minute calm and fine, the next yelling and acting really angry, almost like pent up rage. Ben gets that way when he is losing a game or not performing athletically (he is a natural gifted athlete). He also gets loud and agressive and quick tempered when his brother (who is 3 years older) gets something he doesn't or when they are fighting over who gets the sport section, etc. His temper is 0 to 100 in one second flat. I'm looking for more ways to help him even out, take things more in stride, and not be so "overly sensitive"...everything is very personal with him. As I'm writing this, it is amazing that I'm talking about an 8 year old. Note: He is on medication which is helping him in the classroom and we see a signifcant difference with it (he's had some really bad days when he has forgotten it). I'd be very interested to hear your and anyone's thoughts and strategies...Its' frustrating to me as well (yep, I've got some mild ADD myself!). I spend alot of time taking him aside and talking with him, but he is so impulsive that it appears to go in one ear and out the other. Thanks for your imput and willingess to share! Thanks Brenda! Yes, it is definitely frustration. When he was very young 2yrs old on…we used to call him Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde….one minute calm and fine, the next yelling and acting really angry, almost like pent up rage. Ben gets that way when he is losing a game or not performing athletically (he is a natural gifted athlete). He also gets loud and agressive and quick tempered when his brother (who is 3 years older) gets something he doesn’t or when they are fighting over who gets the sport section, etc. His temper is 0 to 100 in one second flat. I’m looking for more ways to help him even out, take things more in stride, and not be so “overly sensitive”…everything is very personal with him. As I’m writing this, it is amazing that I’m talking about an 8 year old. Note: He is on medication which is helping him in the classroom and we see a signifcant difference with it (he’s had some really bad days when he has forgotten it). I’d be very interested to hear your and anyone’s thoughts and strategies…Its’ frustrating to me as well (yep, I’ve got some mild ADD myself!). I spend alot of time taking him aside and talking with him, but he is so impulsive that it appears to go in one ear and out the other. Thanks for your imput and willingess to share!

]]> By: Brenda http://addmoms.com/2009/02/17/what-is-your-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-8157 Brenda Sat, 12 Sep 2009 21:37:29 +0000 http://addmoms.com/?p=751#comment-8157 I suspect that a large part of Ben's anger is due to frustration. He most likely has a high intelligence level yet it may not be reflected in his schoolwork, grades, and others opinion of him. He knows he is capable of much more than what he accomplishes but doesn't know how to change that and that of course will affect his self esteem. It's also possible that the anger is what is called Oppositional Defiant Disorder, something that can occur along with ADHD. If that is the case, the anger most likely would have been present from an early age and may even cause consistent behavioral problems. Since you say he is sweet and affectionate, it seems unlikely that he has ODD. Can you pinpoint the things that make him angry or frustrate him? Knowing that would be a big step in helping him find solutions. If you can respond with more information, I would be happy to offer specific ideas. I suspect that a large part of Ben’s anger is due to frustration. He most likely has a high intelligence level yet it may not be reflected in his schoolwork, grades, and others opinion of him. He knows he is capable of much more than what he accomplishes but doesn’t know how to change that and that of course will affect his self esteem.

It’s also possible that the anger is what is called Oppositional Defiant Disorder, something that can occur along with ADHD. If that is the case, the anger most likely would have been present from an early age and may even cause consistent behavioral problems. Since you say he is sweet and affectionate, it seems unlikely that he has ODD.

Can you pinpoint the things that make him angry or frustrate him? Knowing that would be a big step in helping him find solutions.

If you can respond with more information, I would be happy to offer specific ideas.

]]> By: Debbie http://addmoms.com/2009/02/17/what-is-your-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-7862 Debbie Wed, 26 Aug 2009 04:35:29 +0000 http://addmoms.com/?p=751#comment-7862 My 8 year old son has ADD. He also has a very quick temper and appears angry more often than not. He acts as though he's always getting the short end of the stick. He has an older brother with whom is he extremely competitive. He is a very naturally talented athlete and he is also very sweet and affectionate. He feels good about himself when playing sports. I am trying to figure out how to help him not get so angry over all the small stuff. He and his brother are fighting all the time these days (ah, the dog days of summer!) I am also extremely concerned about his self esteem...he show signs of having low self esteem. It's challenging for us since we do get frustrated with him and neither my husband nor I are super patient...although we are trying. If you have any advice, we would be interested in hearing your thoughts. Ben is a great kid and we really want him to live a happy life. We are struggling in these areas and hoping to give him the tools to let go of some of that anger and feel better about himself. My 8 year old son has ADD. He also has a very quick temper and appears angry more often than not. He acts as though he’s always getting the short end of the stick. He has an older brother with whom is he extremely competitive. He is a very naturally talented athlete and he is also very sweet and affectionate. He feels good about himself when playing sports. I am trying to figure out how to help him not get so angry over all the small stuff. He and his brother are fighting all the time these days (ah, the dog days of summer!) I am also extremely concerned about his self esteem…he show signs of having low self esteem. It’s challenging for us since we do get frustrated with him and neither my husband nor I are super patient…although we are trying. If you have any advice, we would be interested in hearing your thoughts. Ben is a great kid and we really want him to live a happy life. We are struggling in these areas and hoping to give him the tools to let go of some of that anger and feel better about himself.

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