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your post spoke directly to me. You are describing my husband. In a nutshell, he was recently diagnosed with ADD, he just started seeing a psychiatrist and is still figuring out the correct medicine dosing. In the midst of all this, I found out a year ago he had been having an affair with a ” former” friend of mine. I have asked him to stop seeing her while we have been in counseling to work on our marriage, he has not. He has claimed he is “addicted” to her. He has also admitted she is toxic, has a horrible temper and says cruel things. As a result of his inability to stop seeing her so we can work on us, we are in the process of divorce. Since he started with the psychiatrist, his behaviors have gotten worse. It is as if, you do something you should not do, you feel good for a short time, then you feel bad, then you try to “fill the void” and then repeat the behavior only “on steroids”, as if to try and get a bigger kick. He now says he wants to be with someone who will support his “bad behaviors” and he knows I will not.
Ok one more? I confess I too would have been a horrible mom at 25 and probably even at 35! It really bothers me that it took me so long to realize I wanted to be a mom and that I would have had a larger family had I gotten my act together sooner It also bothers me that I don’t think I could handle a large family….why not? I dunno ((((just couldn’t)))) I like quiet and things being kind of under control too much! I hate that I didn’t manage my money better when I had it. I confess I resent doing anything for anyone else in the few hours a week I have off. Unfortunately that’s what happens. All I want to do is take a shower and go to Yoga. I confess I worry about E having ADHD and what that may mean in the future I confess I’m glad E’s cute and funny because maybe his teachers will be more patient with him (horrible i know!!!!!!!!!!) I love when he calls me Mama I LOOOOOOOVE IT my heart skips a beat every time~ I regret a post i once wrote saying i’d let E change his name if he wanted to. I didn’t mean it. Middle name MAYBE I confess i used to think there was a right and wrong way to parent.k Lord have I learned! I confess A.com has opened my eyes in so many ways and made me a less judgmental person! I confess when I read about the lack of info in international adoptions I feel blessed to have so much info about DS’s bio family. I confess that the older I get, the less my DH is everything to me and the more I need my friends. Some days I feel my age, some days I feel a lot older but lately, I feel like i’m 35. And i love that!
With a therapist, with a friend, with a spouse—with someone, because it is all but impossible to do this alone—you need to talk through or “confess” what you take to be your sins. As you do this, you will discover that they are not nearly as bad in the eyes of others as they are in your eyes. It is all right that you have messes. People enjoy your unpredictable remarks, and those who don’t can look elsewhere for friends. It is all right that you are late. Sure, it would be good to try to be on time, but as long as people know you are not just blowing them off, they can forgive lateness. If they can’t, you don’t need them as friends, either. How boring it would be if everyone were “normal.” Where would Monty Python or Mel Brooks have come from? Remember, what is strange today becomes truth or art tomorrow.
THANK YOU SO MUCH for your comments! I love your confessions because they’re honest and we’ve all been there.
Wow. I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I hope that things will work out for the best for you.
And you’re right when you describe your husband’s behavior as a sort of vicious circle. That can be very true at times.
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My 8 year old daughter has been smearing poop on the wall of the bathroom at afterschool care. The first time she was accused she denied it. I eventually got her to confess to having done it on 3 separate occasions. She was punished but was told she would be more severly punished if she did not tell the truth. Her confession came with no physical violence, but guilt was used to coerse her. She was told about cameras on outside of the stalls in the bathroom. I told her the cameras had clocks built in and the aides could narrow it down to her. Only when she thought she was definately caught did she confess. Today she was written up because it happened again. She used the stall that it occurred in. She said she had a bowl movement but she swears she did not do it. I hate not to believe her, but I dont. Is there some medical terminology for this, is it some sort of symdrom. I am an elementary school teacher. This problem has occurred on occasion at my school. Everyones reaction was the same. “That’s disgusting!!” and I agree. Now I my own daughter may be doing the same thing. She has average to above average intelligence. I am not denying any disability because I have a 20 year old daughter who is mildly mentally handicapped. Denial would not have gotten her the help she needed. This child is very active maybe even adhd. I have seen those kinds of kid in my classroom too and have been somewhat trained to identify potential issues. She is a beautiful otherwise perfectly normal, athletic 8 year old with a lot of personality and wit. I cannot understand why she would do such a thing. Is there a chemical embalance going on? some psycological abnormality she has I dont know what to do? or where to go for help?
I definitely think there is a problem here of some kind. I’m not in a position to say what it might be, but if I were you I would seek help from a mental health professional, perhaps a psychologist or psychiatrist. One who specializes in children might be even better although harder to find. I wish you and your daughter all the best.
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